Husband should not suffer unjustly. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) warned against those who unjustly afflict their husbands and sought refuge with Allah from such wives.

Islam has assigned a major responsibility to men to build a happy family. In a hadith, the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, "A believing man will not be angry with a believing woman."

Because if he thinks something is bad, then he will have a quality for which he can be satisfied with it.' (Sahih Muslim, Hadith, 1469)

Obedience to the husband.

Wives are also commanded to obey their husbands. It is not against the Shari'ah - any such words of the husband are ordered to be obeyed. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, "When a husband calls his wife in need, she must come to him, even if she is busy on the stove." (i.e. even if he is busy cooking)' (Tirmidhi).

In another hadith, the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, “When a man calls his wife to his bed (for intercourse). After that, if the wife does not respond to her husband's call, and if the husband spends the night displeased with her, then the inhabitants of Paradise will continue to curse her until morning' (Bukhari). From these two hadiths it is clearly understood that it is essential for the wife to follow the orders of her husband.

If you hurt your husband unfairly.

Husband should not suffer unjustly. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) warned against those who unjustly afflict their husbands and sought refuge with Allah from such wives. In a hadith, the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, said:

O Allah, I seek refuge in You from an evil neighbor; From a wife who makes me old before old age comes; From such a son, who becomes my master; From such riches, which cause me torment, and from such deceitful friends, whose eyes see me and whose heart observes meby doing for caused by due to as a result of

If he sees something good, he hides it. And when he sees something evil, he propagates it.' (Tabarani, Silsila Sahih, Hadith, 3137)

If the husband dislikes the work.

Many women do more of the things they dislike to annoy or anger their husbands. Rasulullah (s.a.w.) said about these women who do not want to be happy even if their husband provides them with proper maintenance, "The prayers of three people do not reach their ears."

Runaway slave until he returns.

A woman who spends the night while her husband is angry with her.

That imam, whom the people dislike.'(Tirmidhi, Hadith, 360)

Ingratitude to husband

The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, returned from Meraj and said, "I have seen hell several times, but I have never seen such a terrible sight as today." Among them, I saw more number of women. They said, Why is the Messenger of God? He said, because of their ingratitude. It was asked, do they ungrateful to Allah? He said, No, they are ungrateful to the husband, do not acknowledge his gratitude. If you favor one of them for ages, then one day if his desire is not fulfilled by you, he will say, I have not received any favor from you till today' (Muslim).

Husband's satisfaction

So wives should not unjustly trouble their husbands and seek their satisfaction. Because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) gave good news to women whose husbands are pleased with them. He said, 'If a woman dies in a state in which her husband was pleased with her, she will enter Paradise' (Tirmidhi). It can be understood from this hadith that God's pleasure is achieved by the husband's satisfaction. 

May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala grant us the Tawfiq to follow the above discussions seriously, Ameen. 

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Author: Prominent Islamic thinker, writer and columnist Hafiz Machum Ahmad Dudrachaki, former Imam and Khatib Qadmatli Mazar Jame Masjid Sylhet